By: Sadia Tariq
The author is an advocate and marriage counsellor.
“Haan Bibi kiya soocha aap ne, rehna hai apne mian ke saath ya
nahe?”
(So what have you decided, do you wish to live with your husband
or not?)
This is a typical question a Judge asks a woman, who files a
case in the court for obtaining “khula”
(divorce initiated by a female). The usual reply from most of the women is:
“No Sir, I don’t want to live with my husband anymore.”
The Judge then announces the dissolution of the marriage by way
of khula between the couple. And it
adds up as one more entry into my list of disposal cases.
As cases add on to my list, they bring a lot of questions to my
mind. Will this woman miss her good memorable time spent with her ex-husband? Or
will she just remember those bad phases, on grounds of which, she applied for khula? What will this woman now do? How
will she tackle her life? How will she now plan for her future?
Handling such cases on a daily basis, the major question that arises
in mind is:
Is taking khula
considered as a stigma or a relief in our society?
